如果是我的孩子

坏爸在园子里举了一个事例，问如果那是你的孩子，你会怎么做。

Here in DC area there was a snow last week and in some areas there were 3-inch snowfall. The snow started late-morning. Responding to the weather situation, public schools in the metro area closed EARLY that day, except Fairfax County Public Schools (FCPS). The FCPS officials decided to keep the school day going as normal.

During lunch, one high school student Dave Kori (age 17), used a listed home phone number to call Dean Tistadt, chief operating officer for the county school system, to ask why he had not closed the schools. Kori left his name and phone number and got a message later in the day from Tistadt's wife.

"How dare you call us at home! If you have a problem with going to school, you do not call somebody's house and complain about it," Candy Tistadt's minute-long message began. At one point, she uttered the phrase "snotty-nosed little brats," and near the end, she said, "Get over it, kid, and go to school!"

Kori took Tistadt's voice message (that was left on his cellphone), and posted an audio link on the Internet. He also listed Dean Tistadt's work and home numbers.

The Tistadts received dozens more calls that day and night, Dean Tistadt said. Most were hang-ups, but at one point, they were coming every five minutes -- one at 4 a.m., he said. At the same time, his wife's response was spreading through cyberspace.

听过网上那位夫人的留言后，我说：“ 17岁的孩子,对自己的行为可以负责了.我不认为把留言放到网上不对,这位夫人的语气非常过分,怎么可以这样和别人说话?!我能理解孩子听了她的留言一定非常震惊和气愤.但我不同意孩子把DEAN的电话号码公开到网上.这是对方的隐私,应该尊重.

我护犊子,如果我家囡将来做了这样的事情,我会对她表示理解..我小时候上学也不是老实孩子,和老师对着干的事情没少做,只是那时候没啥网络啥的..家长做到公平公正,对孩子就是最大的帮助.”

有人说应该让孩子道歉，把帖到网上的留言给撤了等等。

我想说，我们大人不应该用我们已经拥有的社会经验和处世态度来判定一个17岁孩子的行为，想想我们自己17岁时候吧。在理解的基础上，再对孩子进行必要的经验传递和行为引导，孩子才有接受的可能，才有可能学会倾听他人的意见。